The mother-daughter relationship is a significant bond that can shape our lives in profound ways. For some women, this relationship can bring both immense joy and immense challenges.
In this blog post, let’s explore two essential topics that focus on women seeking to heal and improve their relationship with their mothers: “Rebuilding Bridges” and “Navigating Toxic Relationships.” I will provide practical advice and expert insights to help you get started on a transformative journey towards nurturing a healthier relationship with your mother.
Rebuilding Bridges: How to Heal and Improve Your Relationship with Your Mother:
The mother-daughter relationship is complex, with years of shared experiences, emotions, and expectations. However, for various reasons, this relationship can become strained or distant. Rebuilding bridges requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to initiate positive change.
One crucial step toward healing is to cultivate empathy and understanding. Put yourself in your mother’s shoes, considering her perspective, experiences, and challenges. This empathy can help you find common ground and foster compassion within the relationship. Going through the Connection Practice Process can help you with this. Additionally, initiating an open and honest dialogue is essential. Choose a comfortable and private setting where you can express your feelings, concerns, and desires for a better relationship. Remember to actively listen to your mother’s side of the story, promoting mutual understanding.
Rebuilding trust, if it’s been broken, is another vital aspect of healing. This involves honoring commitments, being reliable, and showing consistency in your actions. Over time, as trust is restored, you can work towards rebuilding a stronger and healthier bond with your mother. Patience is key during this process, as it may take time to rebuild what has been damaged. Remember to celebrate small victories along the way, cherishing moments of connection and progress.
Navigating Toxic Relationships: Recognizing and Coping with Toxic Behaviors from Your Mother:
The mother-daughter relationship can sometimes become toxic, with destructive and harmful patterns and behaviors. Recognizing toxic behaviors is the first step towards creating change and protecting your emotional well-being.
It’s important to understand that toxic behaviors can take various forms, such as manipulation, emotional abuse, or excessive criticism. By learning to recognize these behaviors, you can begin to establish boundaries to protect yourself. Setting clear boundaries is crucial for maintaining your emotional well-being while still fostering a connection with your mother.
Coping with toxic behaviors requires self-care and seeking support. Prioritize self-care activities that promote your mental and emotional health. This can include engaging in hobbies, practicing mindfulness, or seeking counseling or coaching. Surround yourself with a strong support system of friends, loved ones, or support groups who can provide guidance and empathy as you navigate this challenging journey.
While coping with toxic behaviors, it’s essential to remember that you cannot change your mother’s behavior. Instead, focus on changing your responses and approach. This may involve reducing contact or limiting interactions to protect your well-being. Establishing healthy boundaries, both physical and emotional, can help create a more balanced and respectful dynamic.
Rebuilding bridges and navigating toxic relationships with your mother can be a challenging but transformative journey. By cultivating empathy, initiating open dialogue, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care, you can begin to heal and improve your relationship with your mother. Remember, this process takes time, patience, and self-compassion. Ultimately, the goal is to foster a healthier and more fulfilling connection.
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Valentine’s Day is often associated with feelings of love, joy, and excitement. Yet, for many, this day may be a difficult reminder of the loss of a loved one, a life without companionship or a reminder of a past painful relationship. This day may also trigger current relationship issues.
Whether it’s because of a loss, a recent breakup, the never-ending search for companionship, or relationship challenges, Valentine’s Day can be a difficult day to endure.
If you’re feeling lonely and/or unhappy this Valentine’s Day, here are a few things you can do to bring more joy to your day.
1. Connect with your emotions and let them flow.
If Valentine’s Day is not a happy day for you, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel whatever you feel. Give yourself permission to connect with your emotions and let them flow. Don’t bottle them up or suppress them. Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel without judging yourself.
Your emotions provide you with valuable insight into yourself and your relationships. By taking the time to connect with them and by letting them flow, you can gain more clarity and understanding about your own emotions and needs.
Writing down your thoughts and feelings will further support you in understanding yourself better. This will also help you process your emotions, giving you an opportunity to heal and move forward.
So, take a few moments to reflect and acknowledge your feelings, and write them down.
2. Reach out to a friend or loved one.
Instead of letting this day bring you down, why not reach out to a friend or loved one? Show them your appreciation and gratitude for being there for you, no matter what. It’s a great way to remind yourself of the positive relationships in your life and to focus on the love that does still exist in your world.
3. Celebrate yourself and take some time for self-care.
If you find yourself feeling down as a result of your loss or unmet expectations of love, then it’s especially important to celebrate yourself and take some time for self-care.
Make a list of all the things that make you unique and special. Spend some time doing the things you love and that make you feel happy, alive, and energized. It can be anything from taking a walk, reading a good book, or dancing to your favorite music to trying out a new recipe, or taking part in a hobby, or having a relaxing bath.
Even if it’s just for a few minutes, focusing on self-love and self-appreciation while taking the time to do something just for you can help to reduce stress, lift your spirits, and lead you into an inner state of joy.
4. Let yourself be vulnerable with someone you trust.
A great way to heal your heart is to open it up to someone you trust. This may be a friend, a family member, or even a counselor or coach. Letting yourself be vulnerable with someone can help you process and work through the difficult emotions associated with Valentine’s Day. Even if it doesn’t seem easy, it’s worth it.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in front of another person can be a powerful step toward healing and experiencing the love that you desire and deserve.
5. Practice gratitude and focus on the positives.
It’s easy to feel disappointed on Valentine’s Day if you feel alone or lack the love and affection you want. But in spite of this, there are still ways to make this day positive.
One way is to practice gratitude and focus on the positives. From the people you love to the small things that make your life easier, take a moment to recognize the good things in your life and appreciate them. This will help you feel more joy and contentment.
Despite the commercialization of Valentine’s Day, it can still be a meaningful and special day for those who are widowed, in relationships and those who are single. It’s important to remember that you have the power within you to create a joyful life and fulfilling relationships.
Valentine’s Day can still be a happy time, despite its traditional associations, if you choose to make it so.
Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. This may be a romantic and happy day for some people, while it may be a sorrowful day for others.
Valentine’s Day and other “special days” have been so commercialized that they frequently lead to disappointment, loneliness, and misery because expectations aren’t met.
This day may make you more desirous of a relationship if you’re single. If your relationship is having problems, you might be buying a gift for your spouse or significant other out of obligation while also feeling worse about the fact that things aren’t turning out the way you had intended.
If your relationship is going well, you don’t need Valentine’s Day to remember to let your partner know that.
Because I choose to celebrate Valentine’s Day every day, it’s just another day for me. I try to have love in my heart every day and to show this love to others. I’m better at doing this some days than others.
This channeled message talks about where to find true love. It’s closer than you may think. I hope it touches your heart in the same way it did mine.
I want to wish you a happy day every day, not just a happy Valentine’s Day!
You need not look any further than your own heart to find the love that you seek for it is with you always. Make no mistake. Anyone who tells you to look for love outside of yourself is misleading you, for until you fall in love with yourself, you will never be able to fully love another. As you judge yourself, you will judge another. As you blame yourself, you will blame others.
The same is true about happiness. It too will not be found outside of you for everything you seek is already within you, waiting to be uncovered and experienced. The longer you continue to seek for pleasure outside of yourself, the longer you will experience pain, for nothing outside of you can ever give you what you truly seek.
This is not something many of you want to hear, so you continue your endless search for love, peace or joy and suffer in the process. When will you stop and come back to yourself where everything you desire can be found?
You ARE the love that you seek. You ARE the peace and joy that you desire. You ARE all that is and ever has been and ever will be.
This isn’t the first time I’ve heard or read about the importance of self-love and that everything we desire is within us and yet, I still fall into the trap from time to time of seeking outside of myself for what I desire to experience in my life. I still give power over my emotions to external circumstances. If something happens that I don’t like, I feel angry or hurt. Sometimes I still blame or judge myself for choices I make that lead to undesirable results.
Although I can say I love myself much more than I ever did in the past, I know I still have a ways to go. I also continue to work on being more aware of how I allow external circumstances to determine my emotional state. It’s not always easy to stay calm when things outside of me are not the way I desire them to be and yet I KNOW deep within me that I have no control over ANYTHING that is occurring outside of me.
I will continue to do my best to respond rather than react to whatever I experience in my life and love myself instead of beating myself up whenever I feel I have failed to do so. I am understanding more and more that LOVE is the answer to everything and this love is always available to me if I but look within.
Are you ready to create new and more empowering relationships in 2023?
If so, I encourage you to use this time of the year to take a step back, reflect on your relationships, and make some positive changes for the new year.
Here are a few tips to get you started:
1. Focus on communication and connection – Take the time to actively listen to one another with empathy and compassion, ask questions, and express yourself honestly and from your heart.
2. Take responsibility for your actions – Acknowledge when you react to your triggers in unloving ways and take responsibility for your actions.
3. Show appreciation – Let others know that you appreciate them.
4. Foster forgiveness – When disagreements arise, be willing to forgive and move forward.
I hope these tips will help you create the family relationships you desire in 2023. and if you’d like some additional help, I invite you to join my upcoming program. It’s free to enroll and will help you improve the quality of your relationships with your family, others and with yourself!
The following post was written by Jenish Modi and what he shares is based on his personal thoughts and reflections about our Spiritual Journey. Jenish is a co owner of the website called Good Question. A solution designer by day, a book enthusiast by night, and a problem solver always. Jenish is a Spiritual seeker trying to know or understand Consciousness.
According to Jenish, everyone has their view on Consciousness. Similarly, he has tried to put his thoughts into writing. Jenish believes consciousness is a Mystery and Mystery can only be solved by us (we, the everyone) by diving inside ourselves and rising from our Intellectual level.
As a passionate software professional, Jenish strongly believes that Computer Science and AI (when applied consciously), are powerful tools that can help elevate human consciousness and well-being. His other passions include sports, books, and doing whatever he can to thank Mother Earth that has made life possible.
What is a Spiritual Voyage? How did it begin? Is it conscious or Intellectual?
The spiritual journey is about knowing your spirit. It means knowing yourself. Who am I? It begins when you start questioning yourself consciously about the occurrence of circumstances in your life. It starts when you start examining your beliefs. It starts with questioning yourself, who AM I? Where I came from? Where I am going to? What is the purpose of all this? It’s subjective to each individual. There is a specific reason why one is Spiritual. It is a matter of individuals to dive within, to get the answers.
Spirit or Soul is eternal and immortal. It cannot be changed now or ever and will never change and something [the body and material world] will always change and keeps changing. You cannot stop the changing process. To understand and accept this reality is to be Spiritual.
Spirituality is not for seekers. It’s for those who want to embrace the change, those who are scientifically minded. According to Bhagavad Gita, Indian(Hindu) Mythology, Krishna and Arjuna both were householders, and yet they had Spiritual Awareness and lived Spiritual lives. You don’t have to be a monk to be a Spiritual or to walk on a Spiritual path.
The Spiritual journey begins with self-inquiry.
How will you feel while you are on this voyage?
The journey can be like a roller coaster, with massive ups and downs. The beginning of your journey might put you in doubt about yourself for doing everything. There will be times when your confidence will shatter and you feel completely lost and a loser of the world. You will nowhere see the light even though you are surrounded by enlightened persons. Doubting yourself, losing confidence, losing faith in everyone will become part of this journey.
The only way out is to stick to it in your journey, even though you lose confidence in yourself, keep surviving and you will find the light of awareness after all the struggle. Again, this does not have to be true for everyone, it’s an individual experience.
This is your journey, accept it, and enjoy it. Make it an adventure. It’s completely wise to accept that not everyone has the capability to understand the situation from the core, and that is completely natural. Everyone has their own world.
The Spiritual Journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of Love.
What are you going to achieve or discover throughout this journey?
If you are setting a goal and thinking about achieving the superpower of the world after being enlightened then you are going to be a disaster as hell. First and foremost, the word achieve disappears when you are on a spiritual path. So, if there is still an achievement tool that keeps going inside you, you must accept that you are not on the right track.
You will discover there is more to life than this physical dimension. You will realize that letting go of things no longer serves you. You will start noticing the sync of your thoughts with Universe signs. You will discover the meaning of Compassion, Kind, Polite, Humble, and Love with selfless deeds. There is nothing to do, nothing to achieve, nothing to Gain, and nowhere to go.
There is no such destination but you will experience the journey of Self Realization, which is also known as God-Realization. Your suffering comes to an end, and everything is blissful and peaceful with you and around you.
The moment you feel peace and bliss within you, is the actual Enlightenment.
What are the ways and signs of Spiritual Awakening?
Meditation is the ultimate and powerful way to be Spiritually Awakened. Devotion and Yoga are also the finest ways to be Aware. Reading Spiritual books, attending spiritual sessions of Spiritual scholars are also ways seekers follow.
There are multiple signs of Spiritual Awakening and the beauty of those signs are they all start getting aligned together once you lose the mind – the intellectual. You will be filled with Love, Gratitude, Compassion, and Kindness. You will consciously start adding the values in others’ lives. You become more empathetic and drawn towards Nature. You start living in the moment rather than in the drama of past and future. Your belief becomes sacred and you are in sync with the Universe at every moment. With Self Awareness you shift beyond the realm of Self Actualization.
What are you going to lose in Spiritual journey?
The ‘Self of Ego ‘will be lost forever. The Ego will get shattered and disappear. The mind – the intellect is forced to take the back seat and the higher self will take the charge of the driving seat. You will lose the drama of mind.
Where is the destination of the Spiritual journey?
There is no such destination where you will end up. It’s an ongoing process. This is the catch. People think from the intellect that we must be reaching somewhere divine where everything will be powerful and we will have a superpower. The truth is, there isn’t anything like this. It’s all drama created by the mind. You detached your mind from your Soul is the destination of a Spiritual Journey. You become aware of your thoughts, emotions, and feelings as the destination. Detachment does not mean you should own nothing. It means that nothing should own you.
Once you are Spiritually enlightened, the law of karma doesn’t affect you. It does exist and works on its accord but it doesn’t bother you.
There is no mission or a milestone to achieve, just live and leave.