Finding Joy in the Midst of an Unhappy Valentine’s Day

Finding Joy in the Midst of an Unhappy Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is often associated with feelings of love, joy, and excitement. Yet, for many, this day may be a difficult reminder of the loss of a loved one, a life without companionship or a reminder of a past painful relationship. This day may also trigger current relationship issues.

Whether it’s because of a loss, a recent breakup, the never-ending search for companionship, or relationship challenges, Valentine’s Day can be a difficult day to endure.

If you’re feeling lonely and/or unhappy this Valentine’s Day, here are a few things you can do to bring more joy to your day.

1. Connect with your emotions and let them flow.

If Valentine’s Day is not a happy day for you, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel whatever you feel. Give yourself permission to connect with your emotions and let them flow. Don’t bottle them up or suppress them. Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel without judging yourself.

Your emotions provide you with valuable insight into yourself and your relationships. By taking the time to connect with them and by letting them flow, you can gain more clarity and understanding about your own emotions and needs.

Writing down your thoughts and feelings will further support you in understanding yourself better. This will also help you process your emotions, giving you an opportunity to heal and move forward.

So, take a few moments to reflect and acknowledge your feelings, and write them down.

2. Reach out to a friend or loved one.

Instead of letting this day bring you down, why not reach out to a friend or loved one? Show them your appreciation and gratitude for being there for you, no matter what. It’s a great way to remind yourself of the positive relationships in your life and to focus on the love that does still exist in your world.

3. Celebrate yourself and take some time for self-care.

If you find yourself feeling down as a result of your loss or unmet expectations of love, then it’s especially important to celebrate yourself and take some time for self-care.

Make a list of all the things that make you unique and special. Spend some time doing the things you love and that make you feel happy, alive, and energized. It can be anything from taking a walk, reading a good book, or dancing to your favorite music to trying out a new recipe, or taking part in a hobby, or having a relaxing bath.

Even if it’s just for a few minutes, focusing on self-love and self-appreciation while taking the time to do something just for you can help to reduce stress, lift your spirits, and lead you into an inner state of joy.

4. Let yourself be vulnerable with someone you trust.

A great way to heal your heart is to open it up to someone you trust. This may be a friend, a family member, or even a counselor or coach. Letting yourself be vulnerable with someone can help you process and work through the difficult emotions associated with Valentine’s Day. Even if it doesn’t seem easy, it’s worth it.

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in front of another person can be a powerful step toward healing and experiencing the love that you desire and deserve.

5. Practice gratitude and focus on the positives.

It’s easy to feel disappointed on Valentine’s Day if you feel alone or lack the love and affection you want. But in spite of this, there are still ways to make this day positive. 

One way is to practice gratitude and focus on the positives. From the people you love to the small things that make your life easier, take a moment to recognize the good things in your life and appreciate them. This will help you feel more joy and contentment.

Despite the commercialization of Valentine’s Day, it can still be a meaningful and special day for those who are widowed, in relationships and those who are single. It’s important to remember that you have the power within you to create a joyful life and fulfilling relationships.

Valentine’s Day can still be a happy time, despite its traditional associations, if you choose to make it so.

 

 

If you have a desire to improve the quality of your life and your relationships, I invite you to join my free to enroll, Magnify Your Magnificence Program based on my book, “Magnify Your Magnificence: Your Pathway to the Life & Relationships You Truly Desire.”

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New Year, New Relationships

New Year, New Relationships

Are you ready to create new and more empowering relationships in 2023?



If so, I encourage you to use this time of the year to take a step back, reflect on your relationships, and make some positive changes for the new year.

Here are a few tips to get you started:

1. Focus on communication and connection – Take the time to actively listen to one another with empathy and compassion, ask questions, and express yourself honestly and from your heart.

2. Take responsibility for your actions – Acknowledge when you react to your triggers in unloving ways and take responsibility for your actions.

3. Show appreciation – Let others know that you appreciate them.

4. Foster forgiveness – When disagreements arise, be willing to forgive and move forward.

I hope these tips will help you create the family relationships you desire in 2023.
 and if you’d like some additional help, I invite you to join my upcoming program. It’s free to enroll and will help you improve the quality of your relationships with your family, others and with yourself!

Here’s a link to learn more and to register if you feel inspired to do so: https://bit.ly/MagnifyYourMagnificence

Let me know in the comments if you have any questions about the tips I shared or my program and  I promise to respond.

Wishing you a Very Happy New Year and may you manifest all of your heart’s deepest desires!

A Time to Reflect

Jesus came to spread a message of peace, forgiveness and love to everyone and whether or not you celebrate Christmas, this can be a time for you to reflect on your life and look for how you can be more peaceful, forgiving and loving towards yourself and others.

When will you remember that what you do to another, you do to yourself and that what you think about another you think about yourself and when you judge another you judge yourself?

Until you are able to love yourself completely, you will not be able to fully love another no matter how hard you may try.

Many of you seek love from outside of yourself and yet true love comes from within and extends outwards towards others. Until you are able to give yourself love, you will not be able to receive it from others and you will continue to experience a sense of lack and unworthiness.

Marisa’s Musings

Have you ever wondered why so many of us have such difficulty loving ourselves unconditionally? As much as I’ve come a long way over the years towards loving myself, I still have a ways to go. I’m still hard on myself at times and will beat myself up when I’m feeling upset about not living up to my expectations and then I beat myself up more for beating myself up because I think I should know better. I forgive myself for the times I’ve fallen into this trap.

I’m still working on celebrating how far I’ve come instead of looking at how far I think I have yet to go to reach all my goals. For example, I used to hate myself and felt completely unworthy of love and had very low levels of self-confidence and self esteem. I’ve come a long way from that dark place and I’m so grateful for this.

Yes, there are still times when I lack confidence and when my self-esteem takes a nose dive and yet, for the most part, I feel very good about myself and what I’ve created in my life and I am filled with gratitude.

I believe the reason we sometimes have difficulty loving ourselves is because we’ve forgotten who we are and we’re living out our lives with the wounds from our past. During this festive and Holy time, let’s be more conscious of how we’re treating ourselves and do our best to heal our wounds and forgive ourselves for the times we’ve been unloving towards others and towards ourselves.   As we heal our wounds and remember more and more about who we REALLY are, we will fall more and more in love with ourselves and this will extend to loving everyone around us more deeply and authentically.

I wish you much peace, love and joy not only during this festive time, but always and until we meet again, I send you love & blessings.

Profound Christmas Commercial

Marisa’s Musings

This video moved me to tears and made me think about how often many of us put off taking the time to visit those we love because we think we’re too busy. It’s so easy for us to get caught up in our day to day lives and lose sight of what’s really important…our relationships with our family and friends.

Is there someone in your life that you haven’t seen for a while and who you would miss if they were gone? If so, I invite you to reach out and make time to visit them, in person. Life is a gift and we never know how long any of us will have on this earth. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

Spread Love, Not Hate or Fear

Spread Love, Not Hate or Fear

Marisa’s Musings

With all the bad press out there bombarding us with news, images and videos about all the horrible things people are doing to one another around the world, let’s remember that there are people everywhere who, in the past and in the present, reach out to others in need and spread love, not hate or fear.

The problem is, we don’t often hear about the good news, only the bad. When we get caught up in the negative stories shared through multi-media channels, it often has a negative effect on us. We might find ourselves judging others who are being portrayed as the protagonists or we might feel depressed or fearful about how the events in the world might cause us, or those we love, to suffer in some way.

You’ve probably heard the expression, “What You Focus On Expands.” If you believe this to be true, I invite you to be mindful of how you feel when you watch or read the news. If you notice yourself feeling anxious, angry or judgmental towards others, remind yourself that if you choose to focus on these negative thoughts and feelings, you’ll attract more negativity into your life and your relationships.

Fortunately, we get to choose what to focus on. This doesn’t mean we’ll never feel any negative emotions or have negative thoughts. Nor does it mean we should suppress these thoughts or feelings. What it means is that as soon as we become aware of what we’re focusing on, we can make a conscious choice to simply observe our thoughts and feelings rather than grabbing a hold of them and spiraling downwards. We can also choose to turn our attention to something more positive and uplifting.

If you think there’s nothing positive going on around you, think of a few things you are truly grateful for. Gratitude has a way of lifting our Spirits and making us feel better.

 

When we feel good on the inside, we pass this positive energy onto those around us,
 causing a ripple effect.

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