Today is Valentine’s Day. For some, this is a day of romance and joy and for others it may be a day of sadness.

Valentine’s Day, like many other “special days” have become so commercialized that it often results in a day of expectations, disappointment, loneliness and pain. If you’re single and desire to be in a relationship, this day can magnify your longing. If you’re struggling in your relationship, you might be going through the motions of buying a gift for your partner out of obligation and feeling even worse about how things just aren’t working out the way you had hoped for.

If you’re in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you don’t need Valentine’s Day to remember to let your partner know how much you love him/her or to buy gifts for one another.

For me, today is a day like every other day because I choose every day to be Valentine’s Day. I do my best to live each day with love in my heart and to extend this love towards others. Some days I’m better at this than others.

Below is a channeled message I received about a year ago that’s about love and happiness. I hope it speaks to your heart as it speaks to mine.

Wishing you not just a Happy Valentine’s Day, but a Happy Every Day!

You need not look any further than your own heart to find the love that you seek for it is with you always. Make no mistake. Anyone who tells you to look for love outside of yourself is misleading you, for until you fall in love with yourself, you will never be able to fully love another. As you judge yourself, you will judge another. As you blame yourself, you will blame others.

The same is true about happiness. It too will not be found outside of you for everything you seek is already within you, waiting to be uncovered and experienced. The longer you continue to seek for pleasure outside of yourself, the longer you will experience pain, for nothing outside of you can ever give you what you truly seek.

This is not something many of you want to hear, so you continue your endless search for love, peace or joy and suffer in the process. When will you stop and come back to yourself where everything you desire can be found?

You ARE the love that you seek. You ARE the peace and joy that you desire. You ARE all that is and ever has been and ever will be.

Marisa’s Musings

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard or read about the importance of self-love and that everything we desire is within us and yet, I still fall into the trap from time to time of seeking outside of myself for what I desire to experience in my life. I still give power over my emotions to external circumstances. If something happens that I don’t like, I feel angry or hurt. Sometimes I still blame or judge myself for choices I make that lead to undesirable results.

Although I can say I love myself much more than I ever did in the past, I know I still have a ways to go. I also continue to work on being more aware of how I allow external circumstances to determine my emotional state. It’s not always easy to stay calm when things outside of me are not  the way I desire them to be and yet I KNOW deep within me that I have no control over ANYTHING that is occurring outside of me.

I will continue to do my best to respond rather than react to whatever I experience in my life and love myself instead of beating myself up whenever I feel I have failed to do so. I am understanding more and more that LOVE is the answer to everything and this love is always available to me if I but look within.